Things Don't Necessarily Happen for a Reason

Things don’t necessarily happen for a reason. Sometimes things just happen.

This statement was inspired by the words of Tim Lawrence, one of my favourite intellectuals who focuses on grief and loss. I wanted to put this out into the universe relating to divorce, loss and grief.

Some of us can find meaning in our divorce; can find a sense of purpose for all the pain we went through. Some of us can’t and never will.

Some of us can find meaning in tragedy. Some of us look at loss as an opportunity for something better. Some of us open our hands and heart to God, or the universe, and trust in a greater path that waits for us just past the pain. Some of us will never get to that point.

Now, we’re all here, collectively facing COVID-9. Trying to find a reason right now for what’s happening is honestly bullshit. ⠀
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People aren’t getting sick “to help us become better.” The suffering of others isn’t going to lead to “personal growth.” People aren’t dying to “teach us a lesson.”

There’s not always a reason for tragedy. Sometimes, things just happen. There may be others out there looking for meaning in this whole thing. But I’m not one of them. I’m not looking for meaning or purpose in this tragedy. ⠀
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Sometimes, the only thing we can do is carry something.

That’s how I feel right now. We can’t fix anything horrible that’s happened. We aren’t necessarily going to grow from this. It would be horrible for anyone to tell a family who’s lost a loved one that there’s “meaning” for their loss. ⠀
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There’s no fucking meaning. ⠀
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Sometimes, horrible things just happen. Right now, I feel the only thing we can do (beyond isolation, social distancing, and donating funds when possible) is to carry this tragedy in our hearts.⠀
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Stay strong everyone. ⠀
Stay healthy. ⠀
Stay safe. ⠀
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And for everyone’s health,

Stay. The. Fuck. Home.⠀
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